Principles From Cultivating Closeness

Here are the principles in their briefest form:

1. MEETINGS
2. INTENTION
3. FEELINGS
4. LISTENING
5. DIVULGING

Here are the principles in the most useful form:

1. Arrange times when you can talk, in surroundings conducive to talking.

2. Stay focused on your intention to cultivate closeness.

3. Reveal feelings — yours and theirs. Keep returning to feelings.

4. Listen well. Help the other open up to you.

5. Reveal yourself: what you liked, what you did,
what you feel, what you want.

Go to any of the chapters for a full explanation of the principle:

1. MEETINGS
2. INTENTION
3. FEELINGS
4. LISTENING
5. DIVULGING